Things to Do and Say
Have you tried to tell people you are not ok? How have they responded? Did they say “oh you will be ok. life is hard we all go through it.” Or did they just ignore your plea altogether.
It is so easy to ask “how are you?” but do you you want the truth. Most people ask this question out of being courteous, but don’t truly want you to answer honestly.
How can we change the stigma and answer appropriately when people say they aren’t ok.
Get used to the uncomfortable answer and acknowledge the person may be struggling
Offer support if you can and don’t try to compete with how you may be doing worse. Keep the conversation light and try to provide positive affirmations.
Just listen and let them vent, a couple days later check in and see how they are doing.
Make time, this is a big one. People make time for who they want to make time for, so remember that. Ask how you can help.
People who say oh I am just so busy and don’t have time to text back are usually the ones with the phone glued to their hands. Maybe find different support.
Try to engage a person who may not be ok and invite them to go to dinner or ask if you can go and visit them.
Know that when a person is struggling, it can vary on how long it may take for them to get out of the bad spot. Stick with them and don’t get frustrated.
Questions you can ask when you speak to a person not doing well.
How are you feeling at this moment?
Who are you using for support?
Tell me what are the factors playing into your feelings.
What can I do to help?
Remember if a person is suicidal provide the 988 number and make sure there are no weapons or things they can use to take their life. JUST BE THERE.